Why It’s Important to Say What You Mean


I hate when people say what they think you want to hear rather than what they honestly think.

Case in point, I asked a friend to go see We Bought a Zoo. She said, “Yeah sounds fun.”

So I followed up with an email offering a date and time. She said, “I’ll have to get back to you.”

And never did. The date passed. Not a word.

She completely blew me off. That’s just rude.

To me, it’s totally okay to say, “Nah, I don’t want to see that movie,” or “I’m slammed at work and can’t do it,” or “I need some me time.”

Instead, she acted like she wanted to go and I believed her. Am I stupid? Should I just expect everyone to talk in double speak? Is every yes really a no?!

I get that people think it’s socially rude to say no, but this is way way way ruder.

A no would have told me she wasn’t into seeing the movie.  A no would have been the polite thing to say. It would have signaled that I should pursue another option with someone else.

She made me feel like a needy, unwanted idiot. Three things I really don’t appreciate.

I am scratching my head on this one. I guess I’ll just leave her alone for a while.

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2 Responses to Why It’s Important to Say What You Mean

  1. berry says:

    Yeah leave her be. She wants some space. Let her call u.

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